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My dads birthday is tomorrow and idk how I’m supposed to be able to get through it without him here anymore

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Kiera - Birthdays can be hard. I get it! Everyone is different, but for me, I try to give myself extra empathy - I know the day will be hard, so I try not to schedule too much on the day and give myself space to be sad - and I also try to do something fun that reminds me of my parents. I'll get a little treat or takeout and watch a TV show, typically.

There are no "right" or "wrong" things to do on days that mean a lot to you. All that's important is getting through the day in a healthy way. On my bonus mom's birthday this year, I cried with my coworker, and honestly, it was exactly what I needed. If you want to, maybe reach out to some friends or family and see if anyone wants to get together? Or, go do something fun on your own?

I apologize that I missed this comment in June, but I hope you got through the day okay, and reached out for support if you needed it. It isn't easy, but it does get easier.

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my dads birthday is coming up tomorrow, it’s been 2 years since he’s passed, and currently i’m back in the home country i lived with him with. and being here has brought me so many memories of grief this helped, i hope as i grow up older i can get to your level

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Birthdays can be tough! Visiting home can be, too. I hope you know that it is okay to have big emotions and that whatever you are feeling is valid.

Grief is so hard, but there is still so much joy ahead for you. The first few years after my dad and stepmom passed, I was so worried that grief would always be the biggest thing in my life, but it isn't anymore. Yes, I still miss them, but it's different now - joy is a bigger part of my life than sadness is. I still have hard days, but it's not every day anymore. I wish I could say when this will happen for you, but there is no one proper timeline for grief. My advice: Let yourself feel your emotions, reach out for support when you need it, and keep the hope that life will get better (because it will!!). I wish you lots of joy, Mia!

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this helps me a lot

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I'm really glad to hear that. 😊 Thank you for commenting!

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no problem I like reading the storys

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